The Myth Of Affection

"Ishq mein chup rehkar bhi nazro se baat hoti hai
Ab to khwabo mein tumse roz mulaqat hoti hai

Kisi din tum bhi dekhoge ye nazara haseen
Muhabbat bhare dilo ki baat kuch khash hoti hai

Phir na yaad aayenge ye gile shikwe kabhi tumko
Jab jaan jaaoge ki pyar mein kya baat hoti hai

Kabhi to hoga ahsaas tumhe meri chahto ka
muhabbat ke ghaam mein bin sawan barsat hoti hai"

Mind,Brain controls us and our emotions.Their are many emotion which we show everyday and night. But, sometimes their comes a situation when we run out of our emotions at the same time we have plenty within us Hidden some where inside us overwhelmed by the occasion or at some juncture.The same happens to me and i guess with you also.

Let's take one type of affection that is love. when you fall in love it is a temporary madness or excitement. you and your partner keep awake for the whole night in this excitement .But, after sometime it subsides. when it subsides , you start looking for other options then you have to make a decision. you have to work out that whether your relationship/engagement have become so tight that you cannot live apart only death can separate you from each other.Love is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day.For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away.

Love has many forms. It can be in the form of mother loving her son & daughter,brother & sister , father & son, daughter and foremost important girlfriend & boyfriend . The rest you define by yourself. In these relationship also, their comes a point which stops you from saying "I love you or I care for you so much that nobody can ever care for you". It does happened to me many times, might be with you also.Their can be two things behind this: You might fear from losing her/him or you might be overrun by the situation you are put in. The moment this thought of losing her comes in your mind you stop where ever you are.After then you are not able gather courage to say "I Like you" and as a result you lose her. Can, anyone love her/him more than this. The answer will be user dependent.

A father, many times fails to say his son, that i care for you or rather he never does. But, you are in difficulty you might have seen all the times and that your father is always with you holding your hand.

It feels sad sometimes when i came to hear that son murdered his father,a boy/girl ditches the boyfriend/girlfriend.So,do we are losing the value of words like love,affection etc? Also, it feels sad that in the present generation,that is mine, yours, can not keep their promise which we make with our partners. I mean does, it take a rocket science to maintain that thing. I guess not,not at all. I am not here comparing the old generation with the new one. But actually i am comparing the way of thinking we have. Their is something in this world bind us with the family ,society ,with partners or future partners is that, the trust,love we have for each other . The moment these things are gone, we quarrel ,fight and dispute arises and then all the things are destroyed. Their is saying "In relationship if a knot is put then it cann't be healed no matter how hard you try".

In relationship, we always try to customize the other one. we always think that my partner will be of this type or the other. So, if we have, to do the customization then why cann't we love machine because they are best possible customization we can ever have. Most of the time, customization always take place after when we commit to each other that we are engaged with the other. So cannot we love the person as it is.Do we require such things for a relationship to survive. i guess not. It is the love , understanding, respect which stir your boat to it's destination.

Being, in relationship can be encouragement to do something for the other. It is one of the most beautiful thing which can happen to you.So live it, cherish it, spend it more.


"Tumhare jism ki khushboo gulon se aati hai,
Khabar tumhari bhi ab dusron se aati hai.
Hami aakele nahi jaagte hain raaton me,
Use bhi nind badi muskilon se aati hai.
Hamari aankh ko maila to kardiya hai magar,
Mohabbaton me chamak aansuon se aati hai."